Dear Lover,
We went to Nova Scotia to visit my sister. She is my favourite human (except for you). As you know, my parents’ alcoholism really took off when Elizabeth (my sister) was about 6. I was just barely a teenager, and would often take Elizabeth for long walks in the middle of the night when my parents were screaming at each other. We’d sneak back in our bedroom window once they’d passed out, and would cozy together in one bed until she fell asleep. I still hate it when she cries, and my heart explodes when she is happy. It’s the closest thing I can imagine to being a parent.
Visiting with my family can be exhausting, and has been exhausting in the past. In fact, it can still be exceptionally exhausting. We often end up just going from pub to pub, ending with everyone (except me, who hasn’t touched a drop in over three years) really drunk, often fighting, usually in tears. This leaves you frustrated – really frustrated. This weekend was a bit different. People went to bed at a reasonable hour. There wasn’t endless drinking in pubs – mainly because you and I don’t drink like that, and Elizabeth is moving away from that lifestyle because it makes her nervous. There was no fighting, no yelling, no tears. Insane amounts of money weren’t handed over to cover obscene bar bills. People woke up feeling rested and refreshed. What a difference alcohol, or lack thereof, can make! I was so happy with this visit, and really hoped you felt the same (although Elizabeth’s 4 month old puppy might have factored into your joy). You seemed to be enjoying yourself, but you’re often good at being “on show” when you need to be.
We flew home late Sunday night and sat on the couch together enjoying our home. You started:
You – “Lover, I want to tell you something, but you need to try not to weep” (I cry all the time when things are too beautiful or make me too happy).
Me – “Okay, Lover. I’ll try.”
You – “Even though your family can be challenging at times, they’re really nice and special people. Thank you for making me a part of your family.”
Me – “Thanks, Lover. That means the world to me.”
You – “Lover, are you crying? I told you not to cry.”
Me – (crying) “I just love you too much.”
We really are the luckiest.
xo